Poor communication is one of the
biggest causes of
stress at work, school, and home. Being unable to talk about
your needs, concerns, and frustrations can create stress. Being assertive helps
you communicate without causing stress to yourself and others. Assertiveness is
a skill that you can learn and put into practice.
In most cases, being assertive works better than being passive
or aggressive. With
passive communication, you may not express your
opinions, feelings, and needs. With aggressive communication, you
honestly state your opinions, feelings, and needs, but you do it at the expense
To be more assertive, focus on what you say and how you say it. You can plan and practice how to be more assertive by following the steps and tips below.
To have a good experience carrying out an assertive discussion, it's helpful to do some preparation.
Body language is the
way you sit or stand, move, and use your eyes and hands when you speak.
Sometimes when you think you're speaking assertively, your body is sending a
different message. That message can get in the way of what you are trying to
say. Using the right body language helps you communicate more assertively. Try
these five tips:
You'll be more comfortable if you practice these rules
in front of a mirror or with a trusted person. When you practice, you can also hear your tone of
ByHealthwise StaffPrimary Medical ReviewerKathleen Romito, MD - Family MedicineSpecialist Medical ReviewerChristine R. Maldonado, PhD - Behavioral Health
Current as ofJuly 26, 2016
Current as of:
July 26, 2016
Kathleen Romito, MD - Family Medicine & Christine R. Maldonado, PhD - Behavioral Health
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